three, five or six?
so, we are constantly asked, "are you having more?" although this casual question seems like it should be in reference to my coffee...
"looks like your mug needs warmed up, ARE YOU HAVING MORE?"
or perhaps the question seems quite reasonable when referring our luck...
"ARE YOU HAVING MORE luck with the girls sleeping through the night?"
how about:
more trips to the park now that its FINALLY spring in indiana?....
more consistant date nights since the baby getting older?...
more of those lindor chocolate truffles that keep disappearing from the pantry?...
but no, these are not the question. the question is: "are you having more children". CONSTANTLY. apparently every single person who comes within 50 feet of us feels like it is their right to know if and when we plan to conceive again. does this happen with every mom or is it because i have a 3 year old, 2 year old, and 5 month old??? does this somehow make people think that its all the sudden not too personal of a question then?
to set the record straight, i actually usually don't mind this question all that much. its from the strangers....the ones you can just tell don't get it....the judgemental "are you having MORE" strangers.
anyway--i've gotten sidetracked.
as we are laying in bed this morning having a 5 person tickle fest, hubby questioned chloe if she'd like a sister, brother or dog. after a few seconds of careful thought she exclaimed "A CAT!!" after a lot of laughter and assurance that she would definitely NOT be getting a cat (hubby and she are both VERY allergic!) she chose a brother. little anika chose a sister. :)
as for mom and dad...well, we're still in negotiations. ;) but we had always talked about having 4 children. we also have always wanted to adopt. we've decided that we probably want to adopt 2 children at the same time. so we're at the point now decided if we're done (THREE), going to be done w/ pregnacies and adopt 2 children(FIVE), or have one more pregnancy and then adopt 2 (SIX).
so, i know that there are pros and cons to different sizes of familes. (and i whole-heartedly believe that we will end up just as He has planned!) BUT, i'd love to hear what your pros and cons are....did going from one-on-one to zone defense put you over the top? or was after 3 really easier to just keep having more? please weigh in on our negotiations!! :)
oh and here's a picture i just happened to catch the girls in this week....witnessing these special times between my precious babies makes it very hard to think that choosing THREE is the right answer!
awwww...what a sweet pic of your girls. I get that "more" stuff all the time since my girls are similar in age...I think people just assume I DONT KNOW HOW to stop since I have them so close in age. There are also people who act like I am overpopulating the earth because I have one more than they did. I think we all come to a point when we know when we are done. I say, if you can emotionally & spiritually handle another one you will never look back and regret bringing that little person into the world. I am providing them with a good home, teaching them good values, and how to be good people. If I am overpopulating the world, at least I am doing it with little girls that have smiles on their faces and love in their hearts.
ReplyDeleteWe get asked that alot, too- our kids are 6, 4 and 2 1/2. We have yet to decide, if it was a smooth happy day then we want another, if it's been a bumpy grumpy day then we're done. Right now I have the baby itch, but want to make sure it hangs around a bit before making that commitment! 2 of our babies were TOTAL shocks, we only PLANNED the middle one, so for all we know we may be in store for another surprise someday!
ReplyDeletetonya--LOL @ "don't know how to stop"...people seriously will say to us..."you DO know how this happens, right?!"
ReplyDeleteTOTALLY agree with everything you said!! if you weren't in CA, i have a feeling our girlies would LOVE each other....and we'd have a lot of fun too!! :)
erin--so know how quickly that itch rises in "happy" moments and falls in "bumpy" moments!
ReplyDeleteso glad to hear that i'm not the only one being asked this constantly!!
We always get asked if we are going to have any other children--mostly because we have 4 girls and people think we should try for a boy :0)
ReplyDeleteOnly one of our girls were planned! But if I could do it all over again, I would have four kids in a heartbeat. Sure, there are some cons--like the 2 loads of laundry a day and a mess in every corner of the house. But there is such a happy chaos in the house all the time and i've never felt so content. I think to the future and of all the family dinners and the tons of grankiddies i'll have :0)
Michelle
Aweee what beautiful girls!! I love that you have three girls, I think it's so sweet when it's dad and all his girls:)
ReplyDeletethanks, lisa! i love it, too. when he calls us "his four girls" i just adore that! there is definitely a special daughter/dad thing that is so sweet to watch!
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